We’re all human and that means we have needs. We want to be appreciated, loved and supported by those we love and care about.
There are several ways that we can support each other and no matter how much you love and support someone, if it is not given in the way they need it, they may not feel it or may even be taken badly.
If you need a fork and out of love for you I keep giving you knives because that’s what I want, I may be hindering instead of helping you. If you are feeling stressed and alone, what I do may make you feel hurt, upset and alone even though that’s not what I meant or wanted to do.
Be very aware of how you help others – they may not appreciate it or be ready for it yet. Just because you know how to help someone you care about, doesn’t mean they are ready for it. Forcing help on someone who doesn’t want it can lead to them pushing you away.
Everyone needs love and support and how we give and receive is a key part of a successful relationship. We each support in different ways, and even this changes so don’t assume you know what someone needs, what you may need in that situation may not be what they need. How do they need support?
Give them love and support and either tell them you are there if they need you or ask if there is a way you can help them.
Then next step is then in their hands, if they ask or reach out for you then help them, , if they don’t then be there for them without interfering. If you are there for them , they are more likely to come to you for help when they are ready to, if you walk away because you’re frustrated because you kept helping and they were ungrateful and kept pushing you away, you may be helping isolate someone you love and care about.
Understand that this is their journey and you cannot travel if for them, some things we need to learn on our own.
