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Self Esteem

Whether you see yourself as worthy of a loving relationship or that you deserve the treatment you’re experiencing is down to your belief about your self worth. Self-esteem is a term used in psychology to reflect a person’s overall evaluation of his or her own worth. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs and emotions such as despair, pride…

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Money Matters

One of the ways control can be gained is with money by controlling how much you spend or by taking your money away from you. Even those who do earn their own income can be controlled by criticism about what they do buy. This is often done with clothes that make you look good, when…

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Remembering happiness

We all have our good days and bad days but when you’re experiencing abuse it’s even more important to remember how to be happy, what used to lift our spirits and either do what we used to or find something new that helps us remember that we are worthy of being happy, and that we…

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Know What You Want

Where you put your attention in life and relationships, your mind aims to give you that you want, but your unconscious mind doesn’t understand negatives, so it gives you what you focus on. You can’t think about what you don’t want, without thinking about it.  If you don’t know what you want how can you…

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Fighting Fair

The calmest person in an argument is the one in control. Without self control arguments lead to throwing blame and shaming at each other and can end in abuse and violence.  No one expects relationships to be calm all the time but disagreements and arguements don’t need to be nasty and aggressive. An argument is…

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Change

There are different levels of change and for them to be lasting you may need to make changes on multiple levels. The results you get depend on the level of change you make. The only way to change your relationships is to change how you think, behave and react as you are the only person you can change. By making positive changes in your own life you may inspire others to change, but you can’t make them change.

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Evaluate Risks & Consequences

The greatest risk in domestic violence is at the time of leaving or after leaving a violent partner. Risk assessments are critical in domestic violence to ensure your safety. In order to decide what action to take we need to look at the possibilities whether you like them or believe them.

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Break The Patterns

Patterns left uninterrupted can continue forever!
Domestic violence is a pattern that unless something significant changes it will go on and affect everyone around you, your friends, family and your children.

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How Domestic Violence Starts

Identify how you got there, so you can follow the path to the future you really want.
Understanding the behaviours and patterns is the first step to changing your life for the better.

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